Futility is resistant

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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • Of course not, if I was chatting with you I’d feel like I was bothering you.

    • “How are you?”
    • “Listening to music”
    • “What band?”
    • “It’s on shuffle, I think it’s Metallica”
    • “What song from them? I love Metallica”
    • “IDK, let me check. It’s ‘Sad But True’. I think it’s actually good”.

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    • “What are you up to today?”
    • “Watching TV”
    • “What show?”
    • “It’s Rick and Morty, but don’t tell anyone”
    • “Why?”
    • “I’m afraid others will think I’m an incel or something”

    My mom and mother-in-law are in their 80s, and they’re not great texters but you can tell they’re making an effort, and that counts a lot. It’s not about caring about how well you text, but how a series of dry answers might make your friends feel like a nuisance.

    You need to “groom” others to care about you so they tolerate antisocial behaviors, but not all people can be groomed this way.