some straight guy i was friends with was obsessed with me. he only cared if i liked men and had a bf for some reason, and would ignore that i liked women. he would act like i was straight and that if i dated women, that just meant i was single and obviously interested in him.
Yeah, that sucks. I’ve had the same thing happen with one of my (former) gay friends; he just wouldn’t drop it. It was really uncomfortable, and I eventually dropped him as a friend because he refused to respect my boundaries.
I mean, yeah, I get it; you don’t really have a choice over how you feel. Some people experience limerance, and it’s not a choice, but how they act is. I’ve had the displeasure of experiencing limerance a number of times, and each time I’ve found that it was more productive to cease contact with the person than to, well, do exactly what your online friend is doing.